Incognito
It feels good walking out the street and being recognised by the people you meet here and there. We all know that its nice to be noticed, especially by people you dont really know personally. Its flattering when someone you dont know recognises you. It tells you that you are not invisible and that although you dont make a conscious effort to do so, your day goes by and someone somewhere has noticed and taken note of you.Some people i know have never had this feeling of being noticed before, and of they have, it is all for the wrong reasons. They are made fun of, instead of noticed for their qualities. They are talked about, but only that they are such weird people and they look so pitiful. When you get to know them better, you find that they are actually very socialble. They initially come cross as difficult to have a conversation with but as you get to knwo them, they start to open up. They tell you that they are envious of people who are noticed immediately, of those who seem to have all the friends while they have to be contented with eating alone and having no conversations at all.
They look at the popular ones and ask, whyt am i not like that? the harder they try to, the further they are from becoming these people it seems. They suffer quietly, knowing that they are not noticed. It sounds pathetic why a person is so wanting and willing to be noticed by others, but we all know that it is a very important need to be fullfilled, to be taken note of and accepted by your peers and surroundings. No man is an island.
A make or break for most, the task of choosing your friends greatly influence the way you are and the waqy you will be. A man is what he says, does and doesnt do. Most dont think that their friends have a greater influence on them than they do on others, and they unconsciously feel that they are the more influential in a group whren in fact it is the opposite. therefore becoming a victim of their peers
For the unpopular ones, these seems even more overwhelming, because although they do not live up to the pressure, and they do not confirm to it, they feel guilty about it, that rather than making their own stand, they are instead not living up to expectations.
I dont really know whats the point of me writing these things, and i doubt if any of them makes any sense, but i am just thinking about a good friend, that very soon, i will be meeting a lot lesser, and wondering whether he will be ok in that new environment he is about to be in, whether or not he will be the same way as when i first met him, not knowing how to socialise and not knowing how to take care of himself and not be stepped over.
To my friend, good luck and stay sharp
posted by Compulsive Blogger @ 12:19 pm
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