Romantic?
Why do women always want romance? Just the other day, my girlfriend was asking me "How come last time you used to be so romantic, now you dont even bother."I retorted "Since when have i ever been the romantic type?"
"You used to bring me out all the time, and bring me to nice placces to eat and stuff. Now you so kedekut (cheapskate), just bring me to the lake only, free one."
(Aaarggh.. spear piering through my heart.) " I thought you LIKE going to the lake?"
"I do lar, but you no longer bring me to nice places like you used to. Now everyday just want to stay at home."
I wanted to say "At the time, i was chasing after you mar, now no need adi." But then, my FTWS went off and i held my tounge. (FTWS = Female Tantrum Warning System)
So instead i said "You cant expect me to be romantic all the time. I would burn out, and more importantly, i would be broke paying for all the expensive dinners. When have i ever held back when i had the money? Its only times when we dont have money."
"Fair enough. I know you are just being cautious with money. But a girl just wants to be pampered sometimes." she said, to my great relief.
Well, there lies the greatest delimma for men. To make make a good impression on a girl, you just HAVE to do something extra special to get through her iron guarded heart and melt it. How do you do that? By being romantic of course. Candle lit dinner, flowers, a thousand hand made love origamies, bed full of flower petals, that sort of stuff. If you've got the cash to boot, bring her up a hot air ballon, or do some sky writing, professing your love for her. Of course, eventually you do get through, and you are awarded by the sweetest, most beautiful living creature on earth (just hope she doesnt snore!) But at a price. What price? Well, she probably expects you to CONTINUE being that way to her. So, every few months, you are faced with the impossible task of trying to come up with something incredibly romantic yet not burn you entire trousers. There's her birthday, there's the day you first met, the day she first kissed you, and worst of all, Valentines day. (IF you ask me, Valentines day is a whole giant scam by all the florist in the world)
Hence, one of the most feared questions to men in general is "Do you know what day is it today?" IF you dont have to answer, you are in trouble dude. The blank look on your face would lead to "Dont you remember? I cant believe you dont remember! Just goes to show how important i am to you!" I mean, guys dont remember dates really, unless it was the World Cup finals.
I must admit that all those 'romantic' thing were done sincerely, but it wasnt with done with being romantic in mind. It was simply me trying to do something special for her. I guess the question really is "How come you dont treat me so specially anymore?" Its really hard to do smoething really out of the ordinary, especially when you have been together for so long, and sort of just settle into the norm. The element of surprise is not there so easily anymore.
So why are men so unromantic generally? I duno. They'd be willing get down and dirty to fix your car for you, its what they are best at. To do all the mushy mushy stuff, really requires a lot of inspiration and (often) guidance/tell me what to do from the other half.
posted by Compulsive Blogger @ 12:07 pm
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