An unusual situation
I’m not sure what to make of it, but I find myself in a bit of a tricky situation.
It’s not a situation I am used to being in, being the kind of guy that I am. You see, there is this girl……
She is another student from my college back in
Since then, she has been in contact with me almost daily, via text message, sending a word of good morning, or just to tell me what she is up to, and asking what I am up to. She even asked me out to go for a walk into the city centre, to the gardens, just the 2 of us and we stayed up late chatting with each other. Obviously, my sudden surge of solo activities has alarmed my friends, and as expected, they start asking me what is going on over there.
I am having mix feelings over the entire matter. It seems a little inappropriate (to say the least) to go out alone with another woman, when you are seeing someone else. But then again, we didn’t do anything except talk, and get to know each other, nothing more. But then again, I don’t think it is usual for a lady to ask a guy to go walking alone with her at night. Neither is it usual for a lady to send subtle and ambiguous messages that can be read differently, depending on whether you think it a joke or not. Or is it? After all, we are not exactly teenagers anymore, and we have done away with that shyness between the sexes a long time ago. If I wanted to know a lady a little better, I would ask her out, even if its alone. It doesn’t necessarily mean I am interested in her. And not every single flirting gesture has to mean something right? People flirt all the time, and when a woman does light flirting (whether face to face or through text), it doesn’t always mean she is interest, does it? Can I say the same for my current situation?
Its easy to tell when a woman is not interested in you, but with this girl, I am not even sure what her intentions are. She has a boyfriend of her own back home, and she is well aware that I am in a relationship myself. So what is going on? Why does it seem like she continues to send me signals of interest? When we were chatting, she did mention to me that “You are quite attractive.”, which really threw me off balance. As I mentioned, a guy like me almost never get complements like that, simply because we don’t find ourselves attractive, and usually, neither do most girls. But I was flattered none the less. It felt good being considered and called an attractive person by the opposite sex. And maybe that is partially why I continue to respond to her daily conversations, plus I don’t want to come across as being rude. Its always makes you feel good knowing that someone finds you appealing.
However, my feelings regarding the matter are clear. I am flattered that she thinks am an eligible, and I do not mind continuing this developing friendship, but that is just about as far as it would go; friends. I have no romantic feelings for her. I am neither looking for a new partner, nor unhappy in my current relationship. It would take something (or someone) really special to change my mind, because as it is, I am already with someone very special.
Which brings me back to my earlier statement; what are her intentions? If she is just interested in making friends and all that, its fine. But my friend seems to think otherwise. He casts doubts over intentions, and wonders why she would continue to pursue her interest in me despite the both of us already in separate relationships. Thus, our budding friendship isn’t exactly popular among my buddies, though they don’t outright stop me. I know they aren’t the type to call home and inform my girlfriend, but I suspect if word got home that I went on a stroll with another woman, I’d be in really hot soup, never mind if it meant anything or not. Its like an invisible code of conduct in relationships that you shouldn’t go out alone with the opposite sex if its not your partner, and if you do, you better be sure as hell she doesn’t find out.
Oh dear….. I’m in a fix.
posted by Compulsive Blogger @ 11:57 pm
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