To love or not to love?
Can a relationship between 2 people of the opposite sex remain totally platonic?Maybe if the 2 persons arent too close to each other, it isnt a problem, but what happens if these 2 people become very close? Where do you draw lines? How do you differentiale 'loving' someone and 'being in love'? Someone told me its different.
What does it mean to be in love anyway? From what i can gather, people associate being in love with having romantic feelings, of blushing cheeks, of feeling like your on top of the world being swept off your feet by your feelings. Is that being 'in' love? How we feel?
And what about loving someone. How does that work? To me, loving someone is a conscious effort. Its not purely about feelings, or about emotions. Its about sacrifice, its about the deliberate act of caring and looking after the feelings and wellfare of one person, even if you dont feel like it, even if you feel you couldnt hate a person more in your life.
The more i think of it, the more distinct the difference. You can suddenly find yourself in love with someone. Your stomach does a summersault everytime he says hi.. You feel goosebumps when she smiles at you. You feel like running 10 miles when her shoulder brushes yours. But then, as quickly as the fire comes, it goes. And you find yourself saying "Me, me, what i want." and not willing to put up with the heartache that comes with every relationship.
Whether or not you are in love with someone, you CAN find yourself loving this person more than you though you ever could. You find yourself willing to make sacrifices, putting others interest before your own, and the amazing part of it all is feeling genuinly happy and willing to make that sacrifice. I never really though of the difference between being in love and loving someone until my teens.
Back to my original question. Can 2 persons of the opposite sex have a very close and warm but platonic friendship? If you find yourself caring a lot for a person, you enjoy the company, you are willing to do things for this person, are you in love? Or do you love this person? Either way, if there is love, is the relationship platonic? Can a personal relationship, of any kind, exist without love? Is loving someone allowed in a platonic relationship? Is doing that betraying your own relationship with your partner?
I'll have to think this one out.
posted by Compulsive Blogger @ 10:48 pm
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