Forthnights

Is 20 Mature Enuf?

According to a friend, there IS a difference between a 18 year old guy and a 20 year old guy. It seems, that short little 2 years does make a difference in how gals out there perceive us guys! Are we guys REALLY more mature ofter just 2 years? I find that somewhat hard to believe

Though generally it may be true that 20 old are just a bit more mature, I find myself constantly confronted with some of my age who (IMHO) are just too far behind in that department. On the other hand, I find myself surprised to talk to some younger people and discover that they are amazingly mature for their age. To me its hard to measure a persons maturity based on their age. Its like a long journey that each and everyone of us has to make ourselves. Some get far ahead early on, maybe because their route wasn’t too tough, but others get stalled and struggle at some points, just not able to advance further yet. They say, the more you know, the more stupid you feel. Its because when we learn, we realize that there is just so much in this world that we don’t know yet, and trust me, I fell pretty stupid.

It feels the same when it comes to maturity. 2 years ago, at 18 years old, I felt that I was pretty mature. After all, I was of legal age! I felt that I have grown up into a young adult, ready to take on whatever the world has ready for me. Now at 20 (or 21 should I say), I see that there are many things that I yet to conquer, and that thinking I am mature is different from knowing how mature I am. So what is the measure of maturity? I have no idea. But maybe, just maybe it has got to do with wisdom. Just like how knowledge can bring about intelligence, perhaps the measure of a persons maturity is how wise he has become, and not how intelligent or how much he knows. Its one thing to know what kind of advice to give, but it’s a totally different thing to embrace that advice. In my own experience, the many bitter and attitude changing truths come to me not when spoken, but when felt. I had to be hit in the head, fall hard to the ground, feel the pain that ensued to really learn my lesson, and mind you it wasn’t a lesson I haven’t heard of before. But until we really get burned or reach some sort of enlightenment, we will just continue to be blissfully ignorant and (in many cases) just plain defiant.

posted by Compulsive Blogger @ 11:29 pm Comments: 0